Archive for December, 2007

Happy Holidays… (Burp!)

December 19th, 2007

Techstep3b_2Well, I bought two new FAT suits on sale last week, and today one of them wouldn’t fit me.  Yep, after ten years of stable, no weight gain, my middle started to inflate; five, ten then 15 pounds.  I’ve spent more on having my pants let out than I have on gasoline this month.  Pinching an inch would be a dream.  Pinching a Michelin is more like it. 

Don’t get me wrong, I know what I did to cause this, really I do.  It is also clear what I will need to do to reverse it, but it is the holidays, after all, and, for the first time since 1998, I am not limited to eating only the garnishes at all of the parties.  Free at last.  I’m free at last!

The rules had always been the same: Eat breakfast each and every day.  Drink tea for the antioxidants.  Brush your teeth. Don’t miss your Omega 3 fish oil. Get enough sleep.  Make sure you have at least one hobby; exercise and join something where you can socialize at least once a week.  Use sun screen, drink plenty of water and cut out saturated fats.  So, what went wrong? 

I moved from my Ornish Heart Disease Reversal diet to the modified Mediterranean diet; went from working out three days a week to working out two days a week; and, after ten years of abstinence, started eating chocolate and drinking one 200 calorie chai tea a day.  Do the math.  That’s 200 new calories a day, seven days a week, four weeks a month. Add that to the lack of exercise, and it represents a caloric train wreck.  The chocolate?  Well, that easily accounted for at least five pounds of extra me.  Ten years of make-up work in twelve short months.

The problem with having all of this knowledge is that, periodically, it’s important to feel like you are alive, and living can be defined in hundreds of ways.  The more conservative you are, the fewer things you will probably have to do to make things feel a little more wild.  I can’t get away with most of the things that I’ve day dreamed about, but this departure from my diet was major for me.

One of my most vivid memories from my former life was the trip that I made from Pittsburgh to San Diego.  I know I mentioned this a hundred or so blogs ago, but it was almost a primal moment.  As the plane took off, I looked down and saw an M&M between my shoes.  I stared at it for what seemed like hours and then actually reached a point of temptation and desperation that was so intense, I almost bent down to pick it up and eat it. Then I kicked it as far away as I could and realized how pathetic my life had become. 

Mandm_guy200_2So, even if my pants don’t fit this year, I have to say that it was an amazing year, a year of personal caloric freedom. 

It’s time, however, to get back into my suits. 

So, I’ll see you at the gym…with my big sweat pants and a pocket full of Hershey kisses!   

Happy Holidays everyone, and thanks for a great year.

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The true meaning…

December 14th, 2007

Last week, during a meeting with one of our planning teams, I couldn’t help but overhear an employee say, “Yep, I saw her trying to walk through the snow and slush with no boots, no hat, and a light weight coat, and I stopped and picked her up.”

Instead of a resounding congratulatory round of recognition, we, each and every one of us who were gathered around the conference table said things like, “Are you nuts? She could have killed you.” To which our employee laughed and said, “Actually, when I invited her to get in, I said, “I’ll give you a ride as long as you’re not planning to stab me or anything?”

“Instead,” she said, “the young woman smiled and with tears in her eyes said, “I’m just so thankful that you would offer me a ride.”

As the story unfolded, our Good Samaritan was told that this young woman had recently moved back here to be with her mother who had passed away a few months earlier. She, her husband and new baby were now trying to survive in a new town, a new apartment and an area where jobs are not significantly abundant for those without specific education acquired skills. The only work that her husband could find was in a low paying, home-based job. They did not have a car, and, in fact, as the conversation went on, she admitted that they did not have the proper furnishings for their baby either.

Our storyteller then proceeded to explain that she had decided that this woman would be her Christmas, and that, somehow, someway, she would get her the furniture that she needed for their baby.

At first we looked at her in wonderment of her perceived naïveté, but then we realized that what we were witnessing was truly the work of the Christmas Spirit.

Yes, she had taken a risk, a risk that, years ago would not even have resulted in anyone thinking about her decision. Yes, it seemed naïve to open herself to someone who could possibly rob her or attach herself to her in ways that would not be welcome, but, that was not what happened either. The woman was walking from the shopping center to the bank in the snow and wind and slush to make her rent payment, then back to catch a bus to her apartment where her husband was watching their sleeping baby and working at his telephone based job.

It was then that we all decided that, if she would permit us, we would all pitch in to welcome our new neighbor; this stranger, her husband and baby into our town. We would share in this spirit of giving by helping to make their world just a little better this Christmas.

It seems like a long long time ago when this would have just been what was expected. We have become so cautious, so skeptical and so cynical in a cold, fearful way. It sometimes feels like we are all enveloped in a crust of practicality that forbids us to reach out.

I’m glad our employee did what she did.

When I asked her why, she replied, “I’ve had Angels reach out to help me in my life, and I just want to give back a little.”

I’m also glad that she shared her Christmas story with us because it truly was a means to capture that spirit that might otherwise have just remained a memory.

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“When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.”

December 4th, 2007

Close your eyes for 30 seconds, take seven deep breaths, and when you open your eyes, read this:

My dream is of a hospital that specializes in loving care. The physicians and staff would provide their warmth, healing powers and skills to our patients every day in every way with sincerity and commitment.

It would be filled with wonderful, upbeat, pure-of-heart people who are dedicated to our patients, patient’s families and each other. They would provide alternatives that bring healing when possible and provide nurturing all the time. They would, before all else, do no harm, be open, honest and dedicated and would employ whatever tools available to help those patients through their challenges: beginning, middle or end.

They, would be you…and the dream is here. You are the light in our patient’s hearts, and the light of the future, ever illuminated, and when I feel okay about my life, it’s because you and the other good people like you give their love, their hope and their positive energy to life.

“When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.”
John Ruskin, 1819-1900, British Critic, Social Theorist

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